It has been said that we are all RAD kids with our Heavenly Father. When I look at the long list of symptoms for attachment disorder, I can’t help but notice that it is often times true. Consider the following symptoms:
Superficially charming – We often play the Christian role really well at church. We know all the right Christian things to say and all the Christian things to do, but what do our spiritual lives say when we are alone with the Lord?
Indiscriminately affectionate toward strangers – We are so quick to let the world in, to invite the enemy right into our lives. We allow things, activities, and/or people to capture our affection, all the while pushing away the true source of love, Jesus, and his authority over our lives.
Not affectionate on parents’ terms – We are really good at loving and praising the Lord when things are going our way and He is answering the way we want, but what about when He allows something painful in our lives that is for our good? Do we still love and praise
Him even then?
Destructive to self, others, material things – We destroy ourselves with self-loathing and negativity. We abuse our bodies with horrible diets, substances, and chronic stress. We destroy others with our gossip or critical and irritable speech. We destroy our world by over-consuming and abusing the natural resources given to us.
Lying about the obvious – We are not honest with God at times even though He already knows the truth. We think if we just don’t acknowledge and confess then it will go away. It will not. He knows and lovingly waits for us to come to Him for cleansing.
Stealing – We steal from God. We are tempted to withhold our tithes and offerings because we really want that latest new thing that has come out or that dream vacation.
No impulse control – We lash out with our tongues especially to those we love. We are quick to become angry. We are irritable and hateful. We impulse buy, comfort eat, and self-medicate.
Lack of conscience – Our consciences have become seared. We quench the Holy Spirit’s conviction in our lives by unholy living and chronic disobedience.
Abnormal eating patterns – We fill our bodies with ultra processed, refined, convenience foods that have little resemblance to the good food God created.
Poor peer relationships – Even among believers this is true. We often find disunity in our families and in our churches.
Preoccupation with blood, fire, and gore – As a society we feast on entertainment filled with these things.
Preoccupation with bodily functions – We get consumed with the temporary day-to-day things of life and lose sight of that which is eternal.
Persistent nonsense chatter – Unwholesome talk: gossip, complaining, venting… How much of our talk would God characterize in this category?
Nonstop demanding of attention – It is so easy become all about me, me, me- my family, my job, my life, my problems – while God is concerned about these things, He is most importantly concerned about bringing the good news of the gospel to lost people.
Triangulation of adults – Stirring up dissention among brothers (Proverbs 6:19)…do we do this?
False allegations of abuse – “If God is so good, why does He allow suffering?” Does this sound familiar?
Creating chaos – Don’t we do this with the constant activity we allow to rule our lives? Our culture tells us we need to have our kids in every activity to be a good parent, however, believing this lie is making us all sick and distracting us from our relationship with our Heavenly Father.
Wow, we really are all RAD kids with God and He is a perfect Heavenly Father. One who is slow to anger, abounding in love, full of mercy and grace but He also disciplines those He loves, doesn’t He?
May we, as parents of challenging children, be able to extend much grace to our children because we have received much grace! But may we also have the wisdom, discernment, and courage to lovingly discipline when necessary.